Questions
Besides the old stand-by of “What was my strongest feeling today?”, try making one of these your NEW “old stand-by”!
- What is my awareness of us as a couple right now? HDIFAMA
- What is it like being married to me today? HDIFAMA
- What is the most difficult situation facing us as a couple right now? HDIFA this situation?
- What stage of relationship do I see us in right now – romance, disillusionment, or joy? HDIFAT
- What did I most look forward to today? HDIFSTWY
- What is my biggest challenge right now? HDIFSTWY
- HDIFA our sexual relationship?
- HDIFA our couple prayer?
- What do I most need from you today (tomorrow, right now)? HDIFSTWY
- What do I think you most need from me today (tomorrow, right now)? HDIFSTWY
- What brought me the most fulfillment today? HDIFAMA
- What is my dream for tomorrow? HDIFSTWY
- What feeling have I not shared with you yet today? DIFALD
- How have I encouraged or affirmed you today? How did that feel?
- When did I feel closest to you today? HDIFAMA
- How did I know you love me today? HDIFSTWY
- Please forgive me for . . . . HDMAMMF
- What was the center of my life today? HDIFAMA
- What is the most vulnerable thing I could share with you today? HDIFSTWY
- What do I most need to take responsibility for today? HDIFSTWY
- What attitude am I struggling most with today? HDIFSTWY
- How was your love life-giving to me today? HDIFAT
- In what areas do I feel vulnerable to you? HDMAMMF
- Where do I feel the need to be reconciled with you? HDMAMMF
- Where do I feel the need to be reconciled with myself? HDMAMMF
- What about you am I grateful for today? HDMAMMF?
- What do I recall most about our wedding day? DIFALD
- WAMFA the line “can’t buy me love”?
- What goodness do I see in you today? HDIFTYT
- HDIFA waking up beside you? DIFALD
- What is my most vivid memory of our honeymoon? HDIFTYT
- What will we be doing when we are 80? HDMAMMF
- You’re my hero. Describe in full and loving detail. HDMAMMF
- What do I most owe you, my beloved? HDMAMMF
- What grudges do I hold regarding you? HDMAMMF
- What makes it hardest for you to live with me? HDMAMMF
- Where do I trust others more than I trust you? HDMAMMF
- What would you most like me to change? HDMAMMF
- Where do I tip-toe around you? HDMAMMF
- When are we most likely to fight and what about? (Is this ever going to change?) HDMAMMF
- What tricks do I use to get my way? HDMAMMF
- Who controls the mood in the house? HDMAMMF
- Who controls the conversation in our house? HDMAMMF
- Who controls the bed in our house? HDMAMMF
- Where do I most take you for granted? HDMAMMF
- Have I been life-giving to you today? HDIFAMA
- HDIFA change I see in you? DIFALD
- What has been the greatest change in our relationship since our Marriage Encounter Weekend for me? HDIFAMA
- What has been the greatest change in our relationship since our wedding day? HDIFAMA
- HDIFA “Bloom where you’re planted”? DIFALD
- Am I choosing the direction of my life, or is my life directing me? HDMAMMF
- When is the last time you forgave me? HDIFAT
- When is the last time I forgave you? HDIFAT
- Does love mean you never have to say you’re sorry? HDIFAT
- HDIF when you ask my forgiveness? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when I ask your forgiveness? HDMAMMF
- When was a time you touched my life? WAMFAT
- When was a time when our love as a couple touched someone else’s life? WAMFAT
- HDIFA how we live out our faith? HDMAMMF
- How am I life-giving to you? HDIFAT
- How does my negative or positive self-image affect me being life-giving? HDMAMMF
- HDIFA our hospitality? HDMAMMF
- What do I value most about our lifestyle? HDMAMMF
- What do I value least about our lifestyle? HDMAMMF
- Our lifestyle is a reflection of our values. HDIFA our lifestyle? DIFALD
- HDIF knowing that God has entrusted us with something special of Himself? DIFALD
- God trusts us to reveal the unique facet of Him that we possess. HDTMMF
- What makes us special? HDTMMF
- Who are the people who lift me up? HDMAMMF
- Where do we go to be lifted up? HDMAMMF
- How do we feel when the church lifts us up? DIFALD
- How do we affect the marriages of others around us?
- HDIFA our lifestyle?
- HDIFA taking on a ministry as a couple?
- HDIFA the upkeep of our home?
- HDIFA splitting of daily chores?
- HDIF when we dialogue frequently?
- HDIF when we don’t dialogue frequently?
- HDIFA how we play together?
- HDIF when I hear “Love isn’t love till you give it away”?
- Knowing the choice is ours to continue what the weekend started, how do I feel?
- HDIFA being part of a sharing group? DIFALD
- What is the biggest change our family/friends have seen in us since our weekend? HDIFAMA
- There really IS a New World somewhere! HDIFAT
- Love is a gift I freely give to you. HDIFAT
- What does “being open” mean to me?
- What quality in you do I admire most? HDMAMMF
- How do you most help me? HDMAMMF
- When have I felt the most loved? (this week, this year, ever) DIFALD
- What does “trust” mean to me? 14. I think our greatest strength as a couple is . . . . HDIFAT
- I think our greatest weakness as a couple is . . . . HDIFAT
- What is one thing you do that makes me feel loved? Describe how I feel when that happens.
- HDIFA continuing to use dialogue? DIFALD
- HDIFA growing old with you? DIFALD
- HDIFA the atmosphere in our home?
- Dialogue can be a daily date. HDIFAT
- Is there anything I am doing by myself that I could involve you in? HDIFA involving you?
- Is there anything you are doing by yourself that I would like to be involved in? HDIFAT
- We are a sign – what do people see when they see our love? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when you criticize me? DIFALD
- HDIFA “dating” you? DIFALD
- Do I expect security from our marriage? HDMAMMF
- Do I expect companionship from our marriage? HDMAMMF
- Do I expect tenderness and understanding in our marriage? HDMAMMF
- Do I expect encouragement from you? HDMAMMF
- Do I expect intellectual closeness from our marriage? HDMAMMF
- HDIFA our vacations? DIFALD
- What quality of yours do I most admire? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when you withdraw into your shell? DIFALD
- How do I want you to see me, and is it the same as I want others to see me? HDIFAT
- What quality in you am I most dependent on? HDIFAT
- What are my feelings about how I accept you? DIFALD
- What are my feelings about how you accept me? DIFALD
- What do I see in other marriages that I want for us? HDMAMMF
- Are we involved with other couples who share our marriage values? HDMAMMF
- Is our light under a bushel basket or on a lamp post? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when I hear you say something complimentary about me? DIFALD
- HDIF when you don’t say anything about something I’ve done? DIFALD
- HDIF when we’re too busy for each other? DIFALD
- HDIF when I hear you say something derogatory about me? DIFALD
- In what areas of our relationship am I still private because I don’t trust you to understand? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when you show that you appreciate me? DIFALD
- HDIF when you make a sacrifice for me? DIFALD
- HDIF when you smile at me? DIFALD
- HDIF when I make a mistake and you point it out? DIFALD
- HDIF when you interrupt me? DIFALD
- HDIF when you ask me to help you? DIFALD
- HDIF when you make me laugh? DIFALD
- HDIF when I think that you are judging me? DIFALD
- HDIF when you are too hard on yourself? DIFALD
- Do I think separate nights out is good for our relationship? HDMAMMF
- Do I expect us to be involved in mutual activities? HDMAMMF
- What guideline for fighting do I find most difficult to practice? HDIFAT
- HDIF when I have judged you unfairly? DIFALD
- In what area of our relationship am I experiencing loneliness? HDMAMMF
- How do I fail to listen to you when I am disillusioned? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when you compliment me? DIFALD
- HDIF when you do something extra special for me? DIFALD
- How does my personality style prevent me from listening to you with my heart? HDMAMMF
- How does the image I project affect our dialogue? HDIFAT
- How does the image I project affect our relationship? HDIFAT
- What has our dialogue done for my self-image? HDIFAT
- What was the most significant part of our ME weekend? HDIFAT
- How did I feel Friday night of our weekend, and how did I feel Sunday night? DIFALD
- What are the positive signs of growth I see in us? HDMAMMF
- In what areas do I not listen to you? HDMAMMF
- HDIF when we are swamped with responsibility? DIFALD
- HDIFA going on a monthly/weekly date? DIFALD
- HDIFA our children’s privacy?