Create Your Own Dialogue Questions

First, choose an area to dialogue about:

CHILD RAISING
DEATH
DECISION MAKING
FRIENDS
GOD AND OUR FAITH
HEALTH
IN-LAWS
JOBS
MONEY
POSSESSIONS
PRAYER
USE OF TIME
SEX
SUPERIORITY

Next, choose one of the following question formats to dialogue about your chosen area:
1.   Why do I want to dialogue in this area? HDIFAT?
2.   What do I hope to gain in this area? HDIFAT?
3.   What do I like best about you in this area? HDIFAT?
4.   What do I like least about you in this area? HDIFAT?
5.   What do I like best about myself in this area? HDIFAT?
6.   What do I like least about myself in this area? HDIFAT?
7.   What do I like best about us in this area? HDIFAT?
8.   What mask do I wear in this area? HDIFAT?
9.   When am I least open to listen to you in this area? HDIFAT?
10. In this area, what feeling do I find most difficult to share with you? DIFALD

REFLECTIONS TO SHARE WITH ONE ANOTHER – use for loving discussion

I affirm another person when I recognize that he/she is good, worthwhile and lovable, precisely the way he/she is. . .period.
1. How am I presently recognizing (affirming) my husband/wife?
2. how would I like to be affirmed and recognized by my husband/wife?
3. To become more fully human and lovable and at the same time achieve a greater growth in my married life, how can I ……
a. Be more myself?  b. Stop hiding my emotions? c. Stop holding onto my fears, especially of hurting other people’s feelings? d. Be more assertive? e. Be gentler with myself?
4. How can I be more aware of the unique goodness and worth of my spouse?
5. How can I delight in my spouse’s goodness without trying to possess him/her?